// we are too comfortable // college edition

College. We think of college as the time to have fun. To be completely selfish and focus only on ourselves before entering the “real world”.

Coming from one college student who did it that way for awhile, then chose an alternate path, there is a much better way.

If you are choosing to be selfish with your college years and focus on yourself, you are missing the bigger picture. Not only that, you are missing out on so much joy.

People are walking straight into hell, but that is uncomfortable so we ignore it.

Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on others.

People going into college think that if they are to “witness well” that means simply walking around with gospel tracts or a Bible and talking to people (which can be effective although not as much so with Millennials).

However, what I have experienced is that God thrives off of relationships. Friendships.

Friendships are truly the key. Make friendships with people in your classes, at your job, in the cafeteria, at student life, at the tutoring center, etc. There are so many opportunities.

One person who became my friend and started coming to church said to me one day “I had never met people who genuinely just loved me and didn’t want anything in return.”

Friendships are the core of humanity.

First should be our relationship with God, and then our relationship with other people follows.

But if someone has never experienced that relationship with God, then feeling that love from other believers is something that can deeply move someone.

We don’t love as the world loves. Our love should be sacrificial, unbiased, and untainted. People will notice this love. They will wonder where it comes from.

One of the number one reasons that people leave the church is because they see hypocrites who are unloving in the church.

At one point, we are all flawed people serving a holy God. We WILL mess up, there is no doubt about that.

But let’s focus on being the change that we wish to see rather than criticizing everyone around us. Let’s be the generation, that sees the hypocrisy, the sin, and the hatred and work to change that. Let’s start a revival in our schools AND in our church’s.

Revival is not just salvation, it is so much more. It is defined as:

  • The act or an instance of reviving. (noun)
  • The condition of being revived. (noun)
  • A restoration to use, acceptance, activity, or vigor after a period of obscurity or quiescence. (noun)
  • A time of reawakened interest in religion. (noun)

All throughout scripture, Jesus had meals with people and He was well known as a “friend of sinners”. Jesus’ love was also sacrificial. He went to the cross for us when we certainly did not earn or deserve that.

With this friend, people who were reaching out to him, would have meals with him and just ask him what questions he had and what was still standing between Him believing in God. This was also a powerful way to reach him.

You can’t fake a genuine friendship. Because it is genuine. It truly cares.

We need to start making the conscious effort to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations. Gods strength is made perfect in our weakness.

We strive to be as comfortable as possible. We buy whatever will make us feel more comfortable. We choose situations that will make us comfortable. We find a church that is comfortable for us. Well maybe, being comfortable isn’t all its cracked up to be.

If you really want to be selfish, and you can’t seem to step away from that, then look at it this way. If you stay where you are comfortable you will never grow. You will stay the same. But with challenges and living uncomfortably, you grow and learn more than you ever could from sitting in a classroom. Grow from experience. Grow from anything and everything that you go through.

Why are we so stingy with the gospel?

It seems even the teens who are beyond their years in other areas are still pathetic in their sharing of the gospel.

Questioning Yourself

“I don’t have time.” 

“I’m shy.”

“What if I don’t have all the answers?”

The questions go on and on, but the point remains the same – there are people all around you running straight for hell, but you don’t have to courage to speak up (Rev. 2:8).

Try replacing, “I don’t have time” with, “It’s not a priority.”

Change, “I’m shy” to, “I don’t trust God to use me and work though me.”

Replace, “I don’t have all the answers” with, “I don’t trust the Bible.”

You see, it’s really a trust and priorities issue.

It is a direct command from God to share the gospel, good news, with everyone. The great commission tells us to go tell the gospel to every creature (Mark 16:15)!

Christians are being beheaded in other countries for their faith, and we won’t share the gospel for fear of how someone might view us? God demands ALL of us (Matt. 22:37).

Romans 1:16 says, “For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes” (NIV).

Charles Spurgeon once said, “The gospel is like a lion. It doesn’t need you to defend it, it just needs you to let it out of its cage.”

First Peter 3:15 says, “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect” (NIV).

Pray for God to give you clarity of thought and speech as you share with everyone you meet. Remember that sharing Christ is an outflow of a beautiful, authentic relationship with him.

Club Mentality?

I’m trying to make sense of the fact that the church doesn’t care.

We have become more like a club than a church, and we wonder why we are viewed by the world the way we are.

Let’s get outside our potlucks and pews; there is a dying world right outside our stained glass windows. It’s too bad we have become too blind to see it. We care too much about other people’s opinions when we should be worrying about God’s (Matt. 10:28).

You see, our problem is that we have become comfortable.

Have you noticed how much padding is on a church pew? We love comfort and easiness.

“Witnessing is too far out of the comfort zone.”

But, if you really knew your Bible, that wouldn’t be a problem, would it?

I want to challenge you to be real, authentic Christians, seeking God and sharing him with the world – instead of throwing every opportunity in the dirt by being too defensive, self righteous, or not letting the person talk and state his/her beliefs.

Let’s make the best of every opportunity God hands us!

Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone” (NIV).

Let me make something very clear: The only reason you were created was to honor, serve, enjoy, commune, and glorify God.

No matter where you are at, what job you have, what culture you live in, you are to spread the gospel.

First Chronicles 16:8 says, “Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done”

First Corinthians 15:3-4 says, “For what I received I passed on to you as FIRST IMPORTANCE: that Christ died for our sins, according to the scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the scriptures” (NIV, emphasis mine).

But it doesn’t end there. When you do see someone come to the Lord, you should disciple them.

The Church seems to have put discipleship lower and lower on the list, and as a result we have fake people going through the motions. So be bold with the gospel!

WWJD, right?


How could we change the world if we truly realized the weight of salvation? If we could see the people who have died without Christ? If we could visualize them running straight to hell.

Christians sometimes like sugar coat the gospel, make it smooth and sweet, so it goes down easy. They try to make it more desirable by taking hell out of it, when in reality that is a big part of the beauty!

Jesus took your hell.

We have become churches with fancy light shows rather than a place where we, the lights, are recharged and sent back out into the world to shine in the darkness.

We live our little “Christian” lives trying to do good, but forgetting the reason for our “Christian values”.

Jesus didn’t die a painful death on the cross so you could be comfortable.

We are faith wimps. The slightest bump in the road causes doubt.

Church becomes like a club where only the good people fit in and the ones who need the most love are turned away.

WE, the next generation, need to step up to the plate and do the hard thing of making church a place where we are raw, share our struggles, share encouragement, worship, and get expounded teaching in the Bible.

Do hard things.

Doing hard things begins with having a vision and working towards it.

One vision that all Christians should have is to see every person come to salvation. It is a hard thing to tell people about Christ, not knowing if they will reject you or not.

God does not give you the spirit of fear. You have the power to be courageous through Him. All things are possible through Christ.

My challenge to you this summer, this year, and for the rest of your life, is to do your best to be God’s ambassador.

You are His body here on earth.

But, being honest here, it comes down to you and your relationship with your God.

Is He worth possible cussing out, accusations, rude comments, and/or worse?

Is He worth it?

Your actions define your heart towards Him.

It always comes back to a heart issue.


3 thoughts on “// we are too comfortable // college edition

  1. Grace C

    Wow, SO convicting and powerful!! Thank you for sharing this much-needed message. I will be starting in college for the first time this semester after being homeschooled, so I definitely need to keep this in mind and to make loving and sharing the gospel to people a priority.

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  2. Faye L.

    Oh my goodness, THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS.
    I love where you say this:
    “Friendships are truly the key. Make friendships with people in your classes, at your job, in the cafeteria, at student life, at the tutoring center, etc. There are so many opportunities.”

    I have struggled this past semester with “church”. I’ve been reading the book of Acts and visiting all sorts of new churches. And time and time again I can only see that the church often fails to be who God created it to be. I am tired of the “comfortable church”— the one where can oftentimes come and go unnoticed, sit in the pews on Sunday and go home without any strong connection to the community both inside and outside the church. We go in and are given artificial welcomes, smiles, even hugs but never truly emerse ourselves in the church and invest in the lives of others.
    This past semester I found one church in particular. I’ve never experienced anything quite like it. This church is genuine— their worship, their faith, their love for others. It’s so refreshing, even in a way, strange. But shouldn’t the church feel foreign? Shouldn’t it be unlike any worldly experience? A place where our faith grows, where strong community is built, where there is boldness to go out into the world and preach the gospel?
    Church should be uncomfortable. It should be weird. It should be like home to the believer and bizarre to the non-believer.
    This semester I’ve often asked myself, “If I were to bring an unbelieving friend to church, would I want them to experience a traditional pew-sitter kind of church or a vibrant, genuine, on fire for God kind of church??


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