This is something that the Lord keeps reteaching me and pressing into my heart lately. It might be the fact that I married my best friend last week, and as a wife I want to create an awesome God honoring marriage where I speak life into Him and encourage Him to seek the Lord and be my leader. It could be the fact that as a wife ( and totally obsessed with children) that I can’t stop thinking about how I want to raise my kids to walk in truth, meditating on it constantly. It could be that I just moved to a new place and feel like it is a fresh start to be known for gospel talk rather than gossip talk.
As women we struggle with venting, speaking our minds, gossiping, slandering, and our speech in general. It has been an area that God has been refining and chiseling at for years now. It gets messy. We hate it but we don’t know how to change it. Or maybe I am alone in that experience? I highly doubt it.
5 Tips for overcoming our mouthy ways:
- Meditate on Scripture. This is seriously number one for a reason. God gave His scripture to edify and equip us! Some practical ways to meditate on a specific scripture throughout your day is to: post it on your bathroom mirror, above stove, on fridge, on your hand, and everywhere. Pull out your Bible and read it straight from the source! Make the verse the screen saver on your phone. Quote it randomly throughout the day. Bring it back to your memory again and again. An example would be when I am doing the laundry or dishes I often quote “work for God and not for man”. I simple phrase that reins in my attitude and guides me back to the Lord.
- Talk to God about it. Prayer is powerful! Take the time to grow your friendship with the Lord and speak to Him about your struggles, sins, and shortcomings. He loves for His children to come to Him. He loves to grow you in wisdom and strength as His child.
- Have someone to keep you accountable/ will call you out (as painful and embarrassing as that is). This can be extremely hard. Having an older woman is ideal. Right now I don’t have anyone like this, but I trust my husband to call me out on my attitude and mouth when need be. Choose someone who doesn’t gossip themselves, and longs to see you grow and mature.
- Think before you speak. We have heard this since we were wee lasses but we still forget this simple thing. How many foolish things could we have not uttered if we had simply THOUGHT about it first! This is a habit that takes time. Be patient and show yourself grace as Jesus does, but keep at it!
- Ask yourself if what you are about to say is: wise, uplifting, pure, holy, edifying, etc. This goes along with thinking about what you say before you say it! Scripture asks us to meditate and think on these things (Philippians 4:8).
This website is always super helpful to me. Here are some links to scripture that I think would be helpful!
I love you all! Have a beautiful day ❤