To preface this list, I just want to go ahead and say that you are not a bad wife if you do not do these things, and not all wives can do all these things! These are some things that I have found to be a great avenue of loving my husband sacrificially. I want to make His life more full, Christ centered, and love filled. I want the best for Him! And no, these things do not happen everyday, but they are my goals!
- Make sure he has time for Jesus. For me, this means setting out His Bible on his lunch break and letting him read and pray while I finish preparing lunch. This time is so key for us. We are nothing without Jesus and need Him every moment. This time is so refreshing for my husband and I think it really gets Him through the rest of His day.
- Do not impulse buy / be wise with money. My husband works very hard to be the provider of our home. It would be disrespectful for me to spend loads of money without consulting Him. At this time in our lives, we always go grocery shopping together, but I know this cannot always be the reality. When it comes to grocery shopping, you can still: use coupons, look for great deals, and make a meal plan for the week so you are only buying what you need.
- Show him affection every day. I don’t mean just in the sexual sense, but all of the little touches that mean so much. Hold his hand, rub his back, put your hand on his leg, kiss him, and get creative 😉
- Always keep learning / teaching yourself new things. I am a firm believer in the mentality that we should be learning our whole lives. We can never know enough about God and I love to learn practical things as well! Some ideas from what I have been learning and teaching myself lately are: how to make a meal plan or budget, keep my house plants alive, organize my pantry, make oat milk, make homemade bread, make homemade laundry detergent, grocery shop frugally, and so much more. The options are endless! By caring for your home and for the people in it, you are caring for you husband. I know that my husband deeply appreciates the effort that I put into these things. He knows that He is cared for deeply.
- Be consistent with the small things. When I asked my husband what made him feel loved and appreciated he said that it is when I keep up with the laundry, prepare meals, putting on the essential oil diffuser, and keep our home clean. Keeping these things done helps him to arrive home from work in a low stress environment.
I encourage you to love your husband in the way that He receives love! It is very helpful to know his love language and to love him in those ways. I encourage you also to ask your husband this question and purpose within yourself to serve him in this way. Serving each other sacrificially is a key to a happy and Christ centered marriage. It is not about completing a long list of tasks, but about putting another persons needs above your own. John 13:35 says that people will know you are Jesus’ disciples by the way you love. This should be seen in marriage as well as outside of it. Out do one another in love.
1 Timothy 1:5, “The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.”
Have a beautiful day ❤